Nice Girls Finish First
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"Never underestimate the power of a woman—especially a nice one. This book is a must read for today‘s world where, thankfully, nice is finally getting the respect it deserves. Mean is so last millennium. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST offers brilliant tools and savvy advice for making ‘nice’ work for you in business and in life. Nice girls do finish first and this is their ‘how-to’ manual."
—Linda Kaplan Thaler, CEO of The Kaplan Thaler Group
and bestselling author of The Power of Nice
"In NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST, Daylle Deanna Schwartz proves that women who are basically good-hearted can still be taken seriously in both their business and personal lives. In fact, when used properly, kindness and consideration can go further than selfishness and bitchiness. Good lessons to learn and live by. Daylle proves that we don’t have to be a bitch to be taken seriously in the world: in business and in our personal lives. The more we read books like this, the more it will sink into our brains that have been programmed to please."
—Nina Disesa, chairman of McCann Erickson New York
and author of Seducing the Boys Club
About The Book
Many women believe that nice girls get less. They see being nice as a weakness, not as the strength it can be. But there’s a BIG difference between being nice and being a People Pleaser or DoorMat. The People Pleasing kind of nice girls find it difficult to be expressive. They often feel used and taken for granted by others. These “nice girls” constantly mold themselves to be liked and often don’t get taken seriously. So does this mean “nice girls” have to bare their claws to keep the cruel world from crushing them before they even know it?
As a former DoorMat/consummate People Pleaser, Daylle says, NO! Women do not have to be demanding and tough to get what they want. They can assert their desires and feelings with a soft, friendly tone and a smile, and still be liked and respected, what Daylle calls a Nice Girl on Top. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST redefines the word NICE and provides tools for speaking and setting boundaries, while still being a nice person.
NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is for every woman who has felt lousy about herself for being nice after getting taken advantage of or feeling used. And it’s for women who want to feel empowered without contradicting natural instincts by being aggressive or unkind. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is for religious and spiritual women who go out of their way to be nice to others with a spiritual intention, but don’t like the hurt feelings and anger that pleasing everyone can stoke. God wants you to be nice to yourself too!
NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST provides step-by-step methods for creating a total lifestyle that supports taming People Pleasing habits and guides women to take control of their lives. The book gives very specific tips for how to handle yourself in more effective ways by:
- Distinguishing between being NICE and being a people pleaser/DoorMat
- Explaining how to control anger and frustration to handle yourself in ways that get better responses from others
- Offering concrete tools and techniques for modulating your voice, approaching situations with a confident attitude, using more effective words in common situations and other specific ways to get taken more seriously and get more of your needs met
- Showing why smiling and speaking in soft tones gets a point across better
- Confidence boosters for approaching situations in more effective ways.
NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST is the direct opposite of self-empowerment books that encourage women to develop a no-nonsense personality. It illustrates that women can speak softly, with a smile, and get taken seriously, by taming their people pleasing instincts to become a healthier version of nice. Women tend to get angry and complain when someone does her wrong. Daylle’s motto is “EXPLAIN, DON’T COMPLAIN!” Nicely expressing a problem offers a better chance to be heard objectively. NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST gives specific tips for how to become a Nice Girl on Top in all areas of life, including:
- Setting boundaries with demanding parents
- Staying in control of yourself in romantic situations
- Getting better results from customers service representatives
- Responding to unacceptable behavior or demands from friends
- Handling work situations more effectively
- Learning how to turn down requests in ways that don‘t alienate
- Responding to unacceptable behavior and MUCH MORE
Daylle learned how to take control of her life and still be a very nice girl. You CAN too! This book is a roadmap to take the reins and guide your life to a happier, more satisfying place where smiles, courtesy and kindness are assets.
What People Say About The Book
“Anybody can be a bitch. And effective as that might be in the short run, in the long run (and it is a long run) it’ll bring you down. It takes a woman who‘s smart, strong and confident to assume the best from people and motivate them to deliver it. Daylle Schwartz shows you how to finish first—every time.”
—Gail Blanke, Author, Throw Out Fifty Things,
Clear the Clutter Find Your Life, life coach and motivator
"Daylle Deanna Schwartz provides many constructive techniques for being soft-spoken, friendly and considerate to others in ways that get satisfying results. This book is for women who are fundamentally nice, want to stay true to that and who also want to be taken seriously, earn respect and get their needs met."
—Terrie M. Williams, author of The Personal Touch: What You
Really Need To Succeed in Today’s Fast-Paced Business World
"First as a therapist and later as an executive coach, I’ve worked with a lot of ‘nice girls.‘ Most were trying to find ways to succeed while staying true to themselves. I would have loved to give each and every one of them a copy of this book!"
—Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D., author of The Nonverbal
Advantage: Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work
“Women who live their lives as doormats fear that they will be viewed as a BITCH if they learn how to say ‘no’ and set boundaries with others. So they keep their heads low and allow others to trample all over them. But with this book these women can finally learn how to effectively take charge of their lives and finish on top, while keeping their dignity intact. Thanks Daylle for an awesome and inspiring read!”
—Debra Mandel, Ph.D.: psychologist and author of
several books including, Call Me a Drama Queen!
"There are many women in my counseling practice who can use and benefit from the great exercises and information here. I really like Daylle’s explanation of how to be a nice girl, yet not become a people pleaser or a doormat. She outlines the pitfalls of being nice to others without being nice to yourself; and she shows girls how to say no, nicely. Nice Girls Can Finish First offers a really helpful self-empowerment tool kit, and the ‘notes to self’ are keepers. A very useful, practical and helpful book for any young woman who wants to be nice, yet not walked over."
—Tina Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist and author of many books
including, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make Before 40.